Joan Ruth Smith Stout

Joan Ruth Smith Stout
March 16, 1931 -September 5, 2007

Our Message

Joan Ruth Smith Stout passed away on September 5, 2007. She was my beloved mother and grandmother of the beautiful girls pictured to the right, Kim, Tiffany, Tara, Chelane, Stephanie, Tristen, Sara, Telisa, Mikel, Jenny and Ashling. My mother died due to complications from malnourishment, or in other words, an eating disorder. I believe it started in her teens and she was completely unaware of the insidious disease that took route in her mind. She was somehow blessed to give birth to four children, three boys and a girl. Joan loved her children with devotion and passion even though much of the time, she felt poorly. Stomach problems, headaches and heart palpitations were a daily occurrence for her. As her only daughter, I was oblivious to her plight until my very own sweet daughter started on that same journey in her teens. By then my mom had been suffering from her eating disorder for a good fifty years, and there was no redirecting her thoughts. Unfortunately for me, I was angry for a while when I realized that the route of all her illnesses was through lack of nutrition. That was shameful on my part, and I am sure that only added to my mom's illness. I hope she knows now how foolish I was. However, through the journey of Telisa's eating disorder, the girls in our family have learned much, especially Telisa! It is for this reason that we collectively, as Joan's Girls, are choosing to send the message out to the world of what real beautiful bodies need to support good physical and mental health!!!!!!! We watch with horror the unhealthy and unattractive images on TV, Movies, Magazines etc. We witness some of our dear friends struggle with body image issues, and frankly we are sick of the comparing and obsessing over one's size versus one's health!! We believe in good health, we believe in eating the food provided for us by our Heavenly Father, we believe in balance and moderation, we believe in exercise in moderation, we also believe the best exercise is done while serving others, we believe that God created many types of bodies and we thank Him for that! We believe in modesty and we believe that our bodies are a gift from Heavenly Father! We believe that true beauty comes from within. All of Joan's granddaughters are true beauties. Our legacy to her will be our commitment to the TRUTH of what is beautiful and praiseworthy. We seek after these things. We will strive for good health and the truth in all we do!

Monday, November 2, 2009

Lessons from life and death!

It's been almost a month since there has been a post on our Joan's Girls website. Primarily because one of Joan's boys passed away this month, her Eldest son Gary, my younger brother and father or uncle to all the rest of Joan's girls! We were heartbroken at his sudden passing. I could of had a longer conversation with him the last time we spoke, but I was busy getting ready to rush out the door. Sunday, October 4th I invited Gary and his wife Lena for dinner. They chose not to come because Gary was in too much pain from his back surgery a week and a half prior to his passing. If we only knew the last time we were going to see or speak to a loved one! I talked to Gary Sunday morning, but later that afternoon when he returned my call, I didn't pick up because I was cooking!? I can never forget that lost opportunity. Please learn from my mistakes. I know we all have flaws and imperfections but REALLY, if we could just come together and treat each other like it's that last time we are going to see or talk to one another in this earth life. The lessons I've learned from the latest passing of a loved one in my life is to: forgive faster, forget judging EVER! and love unconditionally always! It sounds so easy and it should be!